Love From A Distance

"Instead of beefin wit ya dawg, just give him some distance." - Rick Ross

Sometimes you have to love people from afar. Everyone won't be able to inspire you to reach that next level. As much as you want to keep people around, you can't. You outgrow them. You surpass them when it comes to wanting and doing more. There are days where I want to reach out to people knowing how empty our conversations are. There's nothing to talk about or its just the same corner store talk. It gets old. It's stagnant. It's boring. Nevertheless, I still want them to see the bigger picture. There are so many people that I wish I could've taken on this journey, but it wouldn't have been healthy. Distance isn't always a bad thing. It doesn't mean that we aren't cool anymore. Sometimes, distance is the crutch that you need to knock from under you. Embrace the change.

Then, you have the people who always have you in some situation that is harmful. "Not today, Satan". Everyone doesn't mean you well wishes. I can't risk losing all that I've worked my ass off for, in the name of "friendship". Not to say that all friendships or relationships need to be a transaction but you have to be able to gain, in one way or another. If I can't feed off of you or pick your brain in a progressive way, why are we here? Where do we go from here? I need to be able to learn from you the same way that you learn from me. Help me the way that I help you. Yes, we'll have our off days but that doesn't stop the process. It may be the most extreme action, but It's hard to cut people off completely. Although it's not always necessary to excommunicate yourself from people, it is necessary to change the way that you deal with them. If I can't help or benefit you, I'd expect you to keep me at a distance and adjust the dynamics of the relationship.

Understand that life is about learning and making mistakes. We fix them and move forward. We fall and rise up. We form new relationships and friendships just as the old ones desolve. Don't feel bad for protecting yourself. If you can later reopen that door, there's nothing wrong with that. When you change the way you move, you change the things that you can do. Don't go out of your way to salvage a lemon. Hope that doesn't go over your head.

Love,

Chan