Broken Mirrors

It took me a while to realize how blissful ignorance was. How often people place blame despite looking in a freshly cleaned mirror. Excuses are made as relationships are ruined. Friendships are broken.  One day, all is well in the world, and the next, nothing makes sense.

So many things in life are unexplainable. We can't figure out a direction to go in.

Some find comfort in chaotic experiences. 

Somehow, we always find a way to organize chaos and make some sense of it all. Why do we normalize uprooting and repotting instead of exposing the root of the issue at hand? The new soil gave no solution or answers, but we like the way it looks because we've eliminated the memory of it being in the same pot. 

The issue is rarely the information disclosed.

We blame the disconnect on the messenger without taking heed to the message. If you tell me that your bank account is negative today and I tell you that your account is negative the following week, what has changed? Is your account not overdrawn? The message remained the same while the messenger changed. We see the logic behind acceptance, yet the fact that it wasn't through a preferred channel, we reject it. The original programming hasn't changed. The station becomes muted, and we continue our lives on a different channel.

A lot of things in life come with hard pills to swallow.

We learn many things through experience, but differentiating between right and wrong doesn't fall in that category. You may need the experience to raise a child, but don't need it to love them. You don't have to have a significant other to understand respect or boundaries. Even as friends, transparency shouldn't come with terms and conditions. 

People will disagree on things, not see eye to eye or choose to part ways, but that shouldn't negate the facts.

Life consists of multiple phases. No one stage is more important than the previous or next. We outgrow, we unlock new areas, we self reflect, and it's all a part of the process. No matter how hard things are, remember why you chose to remain where you are. Remember that you determine your happiness. People can contribute to it, but it's up to you to take control of the rollercoaster. When I tattooed "No Love Lost" on my collar, it was for one particular situation. After all of these years, I find myself reflecting on it and remembering the original reason. We can move on and be at peace. Look in the mirror every once in a while and reflect. 

Perception isn't always reality, but we have to take it for what it is.